Normally I don't accept friend requests if no vids. However, you being close to my age, and having the same frustration I do, I will. My wife never let me spank her, though she knew I wanted to, because of too many bad memories from her youth, and could not see how there could be pleasure. She wouldn't spank me either. When we were active, she let me slap her tits and spank her nipples to orgasm, usually while she was sitting on my face or my cock. She would spank my nipples and my cock, but she wouldn't let me spank her pussy. Since we both liked the nipple spanking I lived with that rather than risk losing permission to do it.
Hello, my friend. We are friends now, right? Lupus is my favourite spanking site too. And not only. I share the same frustrations as you. My dear wife does not have the same inclinations towards spanking as I do. She knows about my fetish for spanking but she doesn't agree with it. She accepted me with the white knee socks. Sometimes we have sex wearing both something like this. But when it comes to spanking, she raises an impenetrable wall. Most of the time she suggests that I do it myself. It's exactly what I do, but she is surprised and horrified when she sees my bruised bottom and tights.
I, too, was in your situation. However, I found my "Lady". My lady loved to be spanked or whipped. She would come to the bed in a short nightgown and panties. There was always a reason she needed punishment. I then told her to fetch the strap. I restrained her and lowered her panties to her ankles. Then the strapping began. She received lashes from her back to her knees. She even purchased a riding crop and begged me to us it on her. After, I either came in her mouth, ass or pussy- however I felt at the time. The next day, she called me and told me about the beautiful "souvenirs" I had given her. I have also used thin plastic tubing on her bottom. It makes a beautiful whipping noise just before it strikes her bare bottom. I hope you find your "Lady". The sex after is unbelievable.